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ON: The Out “Power List 2013”: (Don’t) Have a Seat, Hunty

My friend Son of Baldwin said it best about this list: “Mostly male, mostly white. Same old patriarchy, slightly different orientation.”

OUT (full disclosure: I, usually, do not consume this magazine) has released their annual power list, and it is a telling list because of the most powerful gays and lesbians only about 4 (maybe 5) are POC, of which 3 are Black —what about the Asians, Latino/as (LaQueers), American Indians, the mestizos, the multiracial?— and only about 11 of the most powerful are women. What this tells us, us Brown and Black faces and minds and bodies, is that we are not at the table. That they made and published this list as celebratory, without analysis, and no pause tells us another thing: they—mostly male, almost entirely white, almost entirely  cisgendered—don’t care and they are not looking to pull out seatS for us anyway. What we need to do is demand our place. Or better yet, if the movement does not want us, our bodies, our minds, our stories, our truthS, let’s make another fucking table. And let’s make our table better; they can  join us, if they want—They wont; when the bullied is invited to the popular table, it is so hard to leave it— but it is not necessary, and we wont let them thrust upon us the labels of “difficult,”  “separatists,” or “hyper-sensitive”; we are not. We will be responding to what you tell us everyday from your chat room talks to your boardroom talks, that you—mostly male, mostly white, mostly cisgendered— have set up the game so that you have the advantage, you have the power and we have only a precious few magical negros. We will respond to it by saying “Fuck You, Fuck Whiteness, Fuck Your so-called Power, Fuck Your Table!” Because hunty, I have more power in my house sitting at the dinner table across from my Baptist pastor father, talking about the news while I am wearing black nail polish and mascara, than Anderson Cooper ever has any day of the week. The little sissy walking down the street in East Saint, or North St Louis, or on the rough neighborhoods on the Chicago’s South Side has more power to change minds and their world than any Ryan Murphy production or Neil Patrick Harris skit.

Hunty, when you talk about “power” define it accordingly and make explicit how narrow your scope it. Because honey, if you want to talk about power, let’s talk about powa, okay?
~Peaches

already in this pic you see two of the three

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ON: Racism is So HOT: Davis Mallory, AfterElton, and that Hottest Real World Guys List

Okay; so it is not that I know Davis Mallory or anything, I don’t, and it is not that I never go on AfterElton.com, I do  (even if I would rather it be called AfterJames, or AfterOscar, or the WildeBunch, or a plethora of other names), it is not even that AfterElton’s “11 Hottest Real World Guys List” is ALL that important (in the grand scheme of things it isn’t), it is about what the inclusion of Davis Mallory on the list means or signifies.  Before being an AfterElton employee Davis Mallory was on the Real World Denver out to show how one could be gay, Southern, and Christian. His Southern charm, blonde locks, and football player next door looks was sure whip the boys into a frenzy, but he is rather memorable for an awful confrontation with a fellow cast member whom he called a “nigger.” Yes ma’am this boy (drunkenly) called someone a “nigger” calling forth another southern stereotype. Sure, Davis apologized, there was a (slightly pathetic) contrition tour, and for all I know he and Tyrie (who is not unproblematic) could be the best of friends. But the point is that it doesn’t matter; I don’t really care, but apparently neither does AfterElton but for different reasons.

You see, for me Davis Mallory’s coming to Black Jesus moments are well and all but since I am not in his life, nor does he have an affect on mine, I don’t much care; all I do know is that in 2006/7, on an episode filled with racial tension and absurdities, an intoxicated white boy and a hot-headed black boy got into it and that white boy tried to call his then-boyfriend over the phone because he was “going home” because  some “nigger” trying to “kill” him.  I lost all attraction. Apparently, for AfterElton, the fact that Davis called Tyrie a “nigger,” revealing how he, on some level, at the time, thought about at least certain types of Black people, doesn’t matter. In fact they state:

Denver! That was a caustic cast. Oh, Brooke! You have almost certainly killed someone before. Tyrie! You’re diagnosable. And Davis! You are gay and good-looking and that confrontation with Tyrie was scaaaaaary. Thank God you’re a part of the AfterElton family where I can be sure you’re safe. Phew.

Clearly they are team Davis and he gets to be HOT. And this is why you hear so many of us who are Black and Brown saying the same refrain over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, and over, again.

It is exhausting.

White gays are ALWAYS forgiven for their racist comments, thoughts, and ways. The way racism and whiteness permeates through beauty culture  the market place of desire, pornography, employment, the actual crafitng catering to and imaging of the gay rights message is an assault on the black (and here by black I mean in older english sense of nonwhite) conscious and body and spirit. It is so prevalent that a stupid list like this which included a guy who called a black person a “nigger” is enough to infuriate, annoy, and make one roll their eyes and sigh a sigh informed by years of treatment and that sigh say “why?” 

To put it in another way, lemme offer this: Can you imagine AfterElton making a list of the hottest X and including a black man who called a white guy a “faggot”? Say Isaiah Washington, can we picture AfterElton including Isaiah Washington on a list of the 4 or 5 hottest Grey’s Anatomy doctors even though he called T.R. Knight a “faggot”? I couldn’t either. 

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